I hope you had a fantastic weekend!!!
Mine, mine was crazy. To be honest, don’t think I’d have it any other way! LOL We took in another foster child Thursday night. After a sleepless night with trying to get her settled in and taking precautions against any unwelcome visitors she may have brought, my Friday was spent running to and from doctors appointments, and trying to entertain a large number of children.
My only disappointment is that I was on a role with my posts. I had a great one planned for Friday. Would have been a great one to carry into the weekend. As it turns out, I think it might be an even more suitable topic for coping with Monday moodiness. 🙂
I had seen an overwhelming number of posts, heard various comments from friends, and overheard conversations in regards to negativity and negative people. Apparently, most people are effected and sometimes annoyed by habitually negative people. At least they were Friday. LOL
It really is so true, though. They can really get to you. Get under your skin. Infect you like a virus. We all have one or a dozen of those people in our lives (even more if you’re from New Jersey, LOL). You know the ones that walk around with a dark cloud hanging over their head. The kind of people that if they were handed 100 gold coins, they could tarnish it with their complaints and whining and it would wind up seeming as worthless as a pile of rusty nails. OK, again with the overly dramatic, sorry!! But you get what I’m saying.
Let’s be honest, we can all have those days. Sometimes longer.
How do you battle it? If you watch the news, listen to the radio, read the paper, you just can’t avoid the negativity, the despair, the doom, the gloom. It’s almost unavoidable. Our world seems to be drowning in it. What do we do? Build an ark? Hmmmmm. Maybe.
You have to build something to keep you afloat. An ark actually works example of exactly what you need to do. Ready for this?
In order to rise above the negativity that surrounds us, you must bale out as much of it that you are carrying as possible. Like water in a boat. If you’re already carrying on water, any extra will sink your boat. You’ve got to bail that garbage out!! If you look back to my posts from last week, there are some examples of where to start. If you don’t think highly of yourself, than you probably also harbor quite a bit of negativity. If you don’t force yourself to find love in those around you, it’s too easy to get caught up in what’s wrong/negative about them.
While you are working on baling out the waters of negativity within yourself, you need to start finding a support of people that are examples of the positive and uplifting person you want to be as well as people that are also working in the same direction. Fill your ark with people that will help you float.
It’s important to recognize that no matter where you are, there will always be negative people. There will always people that walk around in never ending despair and hopelessness. You can’t avoid it. As you begin to rise above it, it’s important to build in some coping mechanisms to help you avoid taking on water again.
One of my favorite coping mechanisms is to see those people and their comments as a challenge. (I love challenges, LOL) It’s almost a game. Rather than buy into what they are saying and how they are feeling, I try to turn them around. I try to use humor or Love and Logic to get them to look at how they’re feeling from another perspective. I’ll try to get them to look at solutions for their worries/problems. If none of that works, I’ll simply keep my mouth shut, smile and nod, and try mentally to focus on either what I can learn from their situation or what I can laugh about. 🙂
I also refuse to watch the news on TV. News shows are just that. They are looking for popularity and ratings, so of course they are going to present things with as much drama as possible. They are only going to present what is going to cause the biggest stir. I know that it’s important to stay current with local, state and world events. I’ll peruse the headlines on several internet sights and only click on stories of interest. Then I just skim for educational purposes. I’m not easily swayed by political propaganda or journalists opinions. I also try not to get up in gory details.
As a foster parent, I’m already exposed to the cruelties and inhumanities and evils of the world. I’m exposed to quite a bit of negativity. I can say though that I’ve built my ark and it’s pretty strong. I see the smiles of my children and hear their laughter and it keeps me afloat. My faith in God helps me to rise above the murky waters of all the despair, hopelessness and YES even the whining! The love that I carry in my heart for all those around me, that takes up so much room there just isn’t enough for the negative.
Oh, I’m not saying that I don’t have bad days. I’m not saying that sometimes some of the negative people and their comments and complaining doesn’t sometimes get to me. What I’m saying is that I don’t let them weigh me down. If it happens, it’s for a fleeting moment.
If you’ve started journaling, as I suggested last week, on days that you are feeling negative write about it. It doesn’t have to be lengthy. If you’re anything like me, once the kids are in bed I don’t have much energy to write 5 pages of journal entries. My brain is usually pretty fried, my body’s worn out, and I’m ready to pass out. LOL (My days run in maximum overdrive – especially during the week. – not complaining, just explaining- I love it!) Sorry, I digress. Just jot down an abbreviated version of what happened/how you are feeling, then look for the humor or lesson in it. Jot that down. If it was just something that you saw or something somebody else complained about, do the same. Look for the humor, or say a prayer for them even!
Recipe of the day:
With football upon us, who doesn’t crave buffalo chicken wings? Kinda goes, doesn’t it? You’ve got to try these!!! They are just awesome!!! I use the seasoning for chicken thighs and drums too. I’d rub it on the whole darn chicken, if it weren’t for the fact it’s not the kids’ favorite. LOL!!
Snagged this from Holisticsquid.com
- 2 1/2 lbs. chicken wings
- 2 Tbsp butter or coconut oil
- 1/2 Tsp celtic sea salt
- 1/4 tsp ground black pepper
- 4 Tbsp butter or coconut oil, melted
- 6 Tbsp apple cider vinegar
- 1 tsp chili powder
- 4 tsp garlic powder
- 1 tsp onion powder
- 1 tsp sweet paprika
- 1/2 tsp smoked paprika (I had not known that this existed, it really does make a difference in the recipe. It’s an awesome spice that I use often, now)
- 1/2 tsp ground black pepper
- 1 tsp celtic sea salt
- Cayenne pepper to taste
Preheat oven to 400 degrees F. Set a wire rack inside a large rimmed baking sheet. Toss to coat wings in melted butter/coconut oil with salt and pepper in large bowl. Bake until cooked through and skin is crispy, 45-50 minutes. Whisk sauce ingredients in large bowl, toss the wings in sauce and serve. (I actually prefer to cook for 5-10 minutes longer with sauce on.)
Serve with carrots and celery.
Perform each exercise for 30 seconds with 10 seconds rest between exercises. If you’re up for a greater challenge repeat for 2-3 rounds.
- Squat with shoulder press
- Side plank with knee tuck (bring your upper knee into your belly, then extend) Left side
- Squat jumps
- Lunge with weight overhead alternate legs
- Side plank with knee tuck Right side
- Step ups
- Skaters (side lunge swing leg behind you like a speed skater)
- Crab abs (Belly up on hands and feet, bridge. Raise right leg and reach to touch with left hand, alternate. Keep butt up off the ground)
- Side step jumps or up and overs (if you have a step box or stable bench side step up and over to the opposite side. If not, step out to your side then jump. Alternate sides)
- Straight abs (lay flat on the floor with hands over head (add weight if possible) reach hands up toward the ceiling while sitting up. Control as you lower back down.
Yes, I do realize that it is no longer Monday morning!!! Was having technical issues that hopefully have been resolved. Hope you still find this useful.
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